tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post7270726874716024639..comments2024-03-03T15:01:00.402-05:00Comments on Joanne Mattera Art Blog: Cyber Disrespect: An EditorialUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-45783256364081320972011-08-16T07:36:44.055-04:002011-08-16T07:36:44.055-04:00My blog does not seem as lively as yours as far as...My blog does not seem as lively as yours as far as comments, etc.<br /><br />Did have an interesting set of comments left on my YouTube channel, which I quickly and thoughtfully responded. It felt like most people cheered me on. <br /><br />I hate bullying of any kind. I enjoy your blog, even if on a rare occasion disagree with you. You are always candid and sincere. The art you present is done Angelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18270910594134410023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-72489707920549231582011-08-14T14:43:20.687-04:002011-08-14T14:43:20.687-04:00It took me this long to check out the imposter blo...It took me this long to check out the imposter blog because I (correctly, as it turns out)figured it wouldn't be work-friendly. This guy needs help. Seriously. It's more than just rudeness. He's putting hours of hard work into this bitter project. Mister (my gut feeling is that you're a man, if not I apologize), you may be reading this. Get some professional help. You don't Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-32309143865008426582011-08-13T13:32:49.415-04:002011-08-13T13:32:49.415-04:00Should have said this in my earlier post, but the ...Should have said this in my earlier post, but the flamer was someone who ponied up for inclusion in a show at the gallery in question and had nothing but love for them. If it's so great, I wondered, why the uber-defensive behavior? She said she was going to tattle on me, and I told her to go right ahead. I'd already told them I'm not interested in paying to play, thank you very much.kim matthewshttp://www.kimmatthewsart.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-50089705106245080862011-08-13T08:46:38.989-04:002011-08-13T08:46:38.989-04:00This post is long overdue! As a member of the FB g...This post is long overdue! As a member of the FB group where this tiresome, negative, nagging, and at times, rather manipulative person has posted, I couldn't agree more that the dialog should happen somewhere else. <br /><br />It's not that this person (and a few of their colleagues) don't "get it". IMO it's that they are angry and feel rejected, and get a certain Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-38407443544956960232011-08-12T15:38:55.873-04:002011-08-12T15:38:55.873-04:00Hi, Joanne. First, I want to thank you for all you...Hi, Joanne. First, I want to thank you for all you contribute to the artist community through this blog and the encaustic conference (even though I have not attended). In reading about your decision to change the way you manage acquiring presenters and workshop demonstrators, it makes great sense. You are working within the context of a very real marketplace. You have been leading this incrediblyMindy Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05639419427502369878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-9878454221835476242011-08-12T14:51:36.943-04:002011-08-12T14:51:36.943-04:00Would you go to someone’s home for dinner and then...Would you go to someone’s home for dinner and then insult them? I know this first hand and the answer unfortunately is yes. We live on a lake and friends like to visit. We like to have them visit. But people have said and done things while visiting to make my hair curl! And I don't want to get started on cell phone discourtesies! Have we come to believe it is okay to be nasty and rude? IKRCampbellArthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15185783768927918993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-88891896153208526822011-08-12T11:08:34.001-04:002011-08-12T11:08:34.001-04:00I am amazed. Why yes, I can't imagine anyone ...I am amazed. Why yes, I can't imagine anyone being so rude! I completely understand. It doesn't seem right for people to be so cruel? I hope they will stop.annell4https://www.blogger.com/profile/07629830133868270690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-26579798539240425692011-08-12T03:16:33.131-04:002011-08-12T03:16:33.131-04:00Nancy, thank you for your very kind comments. I wa...Nancy, thank you for your very kind comments. I want to tie them into something Cath said in the post just above you. She said she was a member of a FB group in which there was bickering. "None involving me but the tension wears off onto those who read it," she says. Right-o. <br /><br />Who wants to be involved in someone's fight? And yet sometimes the issues being disputed can Joanne Matterahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02564594823192456546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-20781836837106899932011-08-12T02:38:54.385-04:002011-08-12T02:38:54.385-04:00Thanks for this post, Joanne. As a member of the F...Thanks for this post, Joanne. As a member of the Facebook group that saw comments posted by another member who continually stirred up trouble in the group with comments about you and the encaustic conference, I am glad that you took this opportunity to bring the subject out into the open air. Even when people are not anonymous, some feel they can make negative comments or stir up tension in the Nancy Natalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03325421420384484035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-22587289968516048662011-08-12T00:17:36.516-04:002011-08-12T00:17:36.516-04:00Having read this and commented, this morning, I ho...Having read this and commented, this morning, I hopped over to a FB art group I was a member of. More drama, sniping, snarling and bad feelings. None involving me but the tension wears off onto those who read it. Having just read this, I chose to take the 'high road'. I wished them well, explained that the negativity was not good for me, and left the group. Thanks for inspiring me to act Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-16494103074449332072011-08-11T23:08:50.227-04:002011-08-11T23:08:50.227-04:00So sorry to hear what you've been going throug...So sorry to hear what you've been going through, just plain childish; you've been so generous with your art and marketing information; I do appreciate your blog.<br /><br />It seems in this age of cyperdom, some folks have lost their politeness. I haven't had folks make rude remarks about me that I know of, perhaps it went over my head. I have had folks email me asking for advice or Linda Starrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04364078667554676592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-51168910762775356242011-08-11T22:05:56.300-04:002011-08-11T22:05:56.300-04:00It's happened to me in a big way, and it's...It's happened to me in a big way, and it's unpleasant, to say the least. <br /><br />I highly, highly recommend the book You Are Not a Gadget, by Jaron Lanier. He is an advocate of what he calls digital humanism. It's an important book.Elaine LIpsonhttp://lainie.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-53446796241310979732011-08-11T19:29:38.405-04:002011-08-11T19:29:38.405-04:00First of all, I had a look at that imposter blog. ...First of all, I had a look at that imposter blog. Truly awful - I will never step near it again.<br /><br />It always seems to me that people feel 'safe' being mean in cyber space because they don't have to deal face to face with the person. But it is a very small world in the end and nothing is truly anonymous. Cruelty of any sort destroys the soul, and artistic capacity, of the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-87188891710867888832011-08-11T19:06:42.532-04:002011-08-11T19:06:42.532-04:00I would imagine that some of it is A) no matter ho...I would imagine that some of it is A) no matter how many "GREAT JOB!" posts we get, it's always the jackasses that stick with us the most and B) I read your blog everyday and really enjoy it but have never commented, I would imagine that there are hundreds or thousands of people like me who have never commented, again it's the squeaky-wheeled-jackasses that seem to make the hamletthttp://www.hamlettdobbins.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-67905822616340195602011-08-11T17:56:01.938-04:002011-08-11T17:56:01.938-04:00It's easy to slip sometimes when you're fa...It's easy to slip sometimes when you're far away from things and interacting through social media, and that's permissible. Sometimes people get angry. It happens, especially when political things get involved. <br /><br />Of course, when it's consistent negativity, something has to be done.<br /><br />It's a very adolescent thing to do to go on the internet and start an Mead McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10138488806634315191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-44596702677261077262011-08-11T16:40:51.104-04:002011-08-11T16:40:51.104-04:00Joanne i have not experienced this so much online ...Joanne i have not experienced this so much online but I think your description of this kind of behaviour being pathological as very accurate. The other words that come to mind are cowardly and jealousy. The cyber world bully certainly is not limited to school children but it is definitely childish pathology, for those desperate for any kind of attention positive or negative. It is good to speakAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08478520659409723872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-29539301562274701702011-08-11T15:51:45.758-04:002011-08-11T15:51:45.758-04:00What I keep bumping up against are individuals not...What I keep bumping up against are individuals not listening, or not carefully reading, jumping to conclusions as to how things must be based on their personal filters. When people do not want to learn or to grow, they will attack those they perceive to be different or what they don't<br />"understand". Growth is hard work, it is much easier to look outward and attack, and not Jerihttp://www.jeriflom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-8035906478155681182011-08-11T14:40:17.238-04:002011-08-11T14:40:17.238-04:00Thomas Paine wrote extensively and anonymously. So...Thomas Paine wrote extensively and anonymously. So I don't think the problem is that per se. I do think envy is a large problem. Those who act, who share, who create threaten those who don't. That envy when combined with a misplaced sense of entitlement yields nastiness.Mery Lynnhttp://mlmccorkle.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-70451748988519637642011-08-11T14:24:44.616-04:002011-08-11T14:24:44.616-04:00Nancy:
You are correct, IMO, to connect egregiou...Nancy: <br /><br />You are correct, IMO, to connect egregious behavior in cyberspace with the egregious behavior in Congress. The disrespect shown the president by repugnicans (yes, I'm being disrespectful here, too), as well as their disrespect to the American people whom they so readily invoke, has created an escalating climate of verbal abuse. The House majority leader has stated that his Joanne Matterahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02564594823192456546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-43006275596036623542011-08-11T14:07:34.052-04:002011-08-11T14:07:34.052-04:00What asshats! Juvenile behavior, nasty insults, an...What asshats! Juvenile behavior, nasty insults, an endless stream of invective without consequences - alas that "our" Internet, which connects us, can also bring out the worst in people. None of the people - like Joanne - who give so much and enrich us in so many ways deserve this kind of treatment. But public discourse seems to have taken a turn for the worse in recent decades. I COULDNancy Ewarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12116290968007398337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-41855728101536129222011-08-11T13:54:23.787-04:002011-08-11T13:54:23.787-04:00Kim,
The vanity gallery flamer was probably someon...Kim,<br />The vanity gallery flamer was probably someone from the vanity gallery itself. You are absolutely correct that the truth is not libelous. Opinion is not libelous either.Joanne Matterahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02564594823192456546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-29165545315685727382011-08-11T13:37:54.856-04:002011-08-11T13:37:54.856-04:00Flaming and adolescent behavior on social networki...Flaming and adolescent behavior on social networking sites and blogs will go on as long as posters remain reasonably anonymous. I'm sorry that you have to endure this asinine behavior; your hard work and generosity deserve so much better responses than that. I had a similar incident a couple of weeks ago on Facebook when posting about a certain Chelsea vanity gallery on a friend's page. Akim matthewshttp://www.kimmatthewsart.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-31895512976208830352011-08-11T13:33:54.884-04:002011-08-11T13:33:54.884-04:00Thanks, everyone, for your comments.
Judy: You ar...Thanks, everyone, for your comments.<br /><br />Judy: You are smart to moderate the comments. You can'tcontrol craziness, but you can control it when it enters your own sphere. Yes, for sure there's a balance between speaking out and going away.<br /><br />Natalie: Yes!<br /><br />Fleta: I'm interested in hearing about what you learn at the "Creatovoty Meets the Law" Joanne Matterahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02564594823192456546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-43715806745154152892011-08-11T13:31:53.380-04:002011-08-11T13:31:53.380-04:00I am really shocked by this post, I guess I am not...I am really shocked by this post, I guess I am not online enough and definitely not on social media sites or discussions enough to have encountered this. I am sorry to hear you have had these cyber bullies.Susan Schwalbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02570986627500479581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30832682.post-36900953286542598852011-08-11T13:28:25.837-04:002011-08-11T13:28:25.837-04:00@judy, you might consider using the comment modera...@judy, you might consider using the comment moderating system called disqus, if it will work on your blog platform. it will allow you to block specified people from posting in the event you have a problem visitor. i use it on all our sites, and it's actually great. i don't even have moderation set on, and disqus still catches all the spam. fortunately, we have a pretty good group on our nataliehttp://www.natalieabramsartworks.comnoreply@blogger.com